Relationship-Building Activities
In addition to school and exercise, what relationship-building activities can you make part of the daily routine? Family meals, cooking together, doing chores in pairs or all together, writing a hand-written note to out-of-town relatives or even a neighbor, video-chatting with grandparents. Think through what you can reasonably ask your children to do daily and weekly throughout this unusual time. A checklist for each day has proved helpful in our family. Instead of telling each child the things they have to do each day, they have a list that includes the items above. When they have checked all the items off their list, they can rest, relax, have screen time, or choose their own activities. During this unsettling time, it is important to allow for down time for each family member.
Younger children may come to you regularly out of boredom. If this is the case, help them create lists of activities they enjoy and when they are bored, ask them to choose from their list. If you have art or craft materials, old magazines, board games, or cake decorating supplies in a closet or garage, you could help them make activity boxes so they can choose a box and do what is in it.
Older kids will gravitate toward their mobile devices. Balance is key to screen time. Help them find ways to connect with friends that are interactive, not just passive like social media or mindless games. They could create a scavenger hunt to play with friends over FaceTime or Zoom. They could use an app to watch Netflix simultaneously with friends. No, it isn’t the same as everyone on the same couch with popcorn, but it still can feel more connected than each teen watching their own movie in their room. Paying teens to accomplish household chores, yard work, or things that never seem to make it off the “honey-do” list is a great way to get them out doing something, help them realize the value of hard work, and help you get some things completed that would otherwise be undone. We have even paid our children to take sample SAT or ACT tests or to read books we have found valuable.